Friday, December 31, 2010

Heed the Whispers?

This new Years Eve I was typing the note, “I am always here for you.” I wondered if that was an invitation, or was I being presumptuous that she might need me? Was I just doing my job as a psychic medium, just being a caring person, or was I acting out  the care taking  pattern  of being an alcoholic’s daughter? These are boundary  issues I have had to learn.

I cannot assume that I am needed out side the professional services I offer. BIG LESSON, I do not accost people on the street and give them psychic information. I do not sit beside a man on the air plane and whisper unsolicited information. You would not expect a dentist to lean over and say, “Your breath stinks, let me tell you what that halitosis is about.” I find  information unsolicited, but still given, a boundary issue.

It's become a year of understanding more of these boundaries.

People come to me because I can help them see their lives differently, feel what they cannot feel or sense themselves because they are focused elsewhere. What I have to offer as a psychic medium, are sometimes important directives, about taking one road or another, fixing car parts, health issues and relationship issues. I cannot be attached to whether someone listens or not. I care, but I cannot have any agenda.I must just give the information, whether it is heard and acted upon is not my business.

I had one client call me this year from her hospital bed, saying, “ok I know you are thinking I told you so.” By the time she ended up in the hospital I had forgotten that there was a message saying , if you do not handle this, you will be in the hospital in a month. I cannot remember every thing I tell a client but I knew at the time it was important.

What is our responsibility in hearing information that can help another?

A client who did not take my suggestion a few months ago about the damage that could come to her home if she did not take steps to protect from the water, is now flooded. My celebrity clients who had a clothing store asked me what they should do about their business. I told them that they would let it go, because I saw them losing a great deal of money; they were robbed more than once. An old friend who has had numerous messages given to him not just by me but by his own guidance is faced with devastating health issues. The point is we as adults have choice.

I too have had to learn this in my own life. I’ve been given messages I did not want to heed, the result has changed my life forever. I am not saying that not needing the messages means there is punishment; on the contrary, I feel there are no mistakes. Mistakes happen to show us something even more important.
If we were warned, then it is clear there is a consciousness  inside of us that cares about us and it can be accessed in time to help us. However  if we are given guidance, warned over and over again, and we still choose not to listen, then there is something wrong in the love we have for ourselves.

I have learned more about boundaries and the care I must have for myself. It is true that I am always here if she needs me, but I wait for her to ask and if she does ask for help I will do my best, to be clear compassionate. I have learned that in my personal world, to heed the whispers of the message, and let the rest go.


Anonymous said...

I guess it's a universal dilemma, but one that's so much more profound and possibly life-changing considering your "line of work." You've expressed the personal struggle so well. Communication, responsibility, action... boundaries.

John L.

Jim Boyle said...

Let those who have ears....

Matthew Frizzell said...

Imagine, if you will, a world in the not-so-distant future, where reality has changed, shifted in a way so that the "average" person would now find themselves in a similar position that active sensitives like yourself are in now, inundated with odd bits of uncorrelated, unfiltered information... and the vast majority of them are without the training or expereince to be able to swim in that flood.

And then imagine, if you will, there being individuals of whom actually have years of experience in keeping themselves grounded and focused throughout this reality, and are available to help these newcomers cope and learn from what they're perceiving...

The boundry issue is something I've had to deal with for quite some time as well. When I was younger, I learned that I had to keep certain jokes in check: I'd jokingly say something to someone about themselves that would sound completely ludicrous to me, but I'd be met with a horrified expression from the person I was talking to... I had inadvertantly blurted out an odd secret that they wanted un-blurted...

Anonymous said...

"what is our responsibility in hearing information that can help another?"

The last time I remember speaking with you was in the 10 or 11th grade in Bedford. All I remember about that conversation was that you were telling me how much you enjoyed the music of Bob Dylan.
Since that time I have believed the most important thing in life that anyone can believe. In January of 1979 I repented of my sin and trusted from my heart in The Gospel of The LORD Jesus Christ. I now believe His Words in The Bible and that they are pure and the only ones that are 100% trustworthy. The Bible says that God is a Spirit. (John 4:24)KJB . That Spirit is identified in I John 4:7,8 " ...GOD IS LOVE.." God is Holy LOVE. The LORD Jesus Christ is then literally, Holy LOVE incarnate. To show how wonderful and powerful He is, He did what no one would ever do in their best day. He suffered what would be equal to what it would be to burn on fire forever so that we would not have to suffer that ourselves. This is the message of The Creator of everything that is and gives the only meaning to all existance. LOVE. One day indeed God(LOVE) will be all and in all but until that day it is only through Jesus Christ that LOVE and everlasting abundant life can be found. I (Corinthians 15:28)KJB
God bless you .
Your servanrt and friend in Christ, Gib (Proverb 17:17; 18:24)KJB (Psalm 16:11)KJB

Marla Frees said...

I'm a bit confused Mr Anonymous. You seem to think you know me from some 30 years ago? (I never listened to Dylan don't even know one song he ever recorded)..and for what ever reason you seem to have the need to tell me what you think about the Lord. Yes the Lord has been very busy.I'm always interested in what the Lord has to offer.Since you feel that his words are the only words that you can trust,then he better be talking to you. And if he is, then you are doing exactly what I do and if he isnt talking to you then I guess you cant trust anyone, so better not go to your banker, your wife, your pastor, your tax man or God forbid your Doctor. Too bad you have to hide behind God and not use your own name. But of course God knows who you are, and that is just fine with me.